Ok, so you have booked yourself on a tour and you’ve done your homework so you know what you’ve let yourself in for (hopefully)… How exciting! But what will the rest of the people be like? Isn’t that the million dollar question? Tour leaders have no more say on who will be part of the group than you will. And much like the tour leader, you just have to get on with who is there. Patience, tolerance and flexibility are key attributes in any aspect of life when dealing with other people. But these factors are essential when you are travelling in a group. After many years leading overland groups around the world, it is safe to say the same characters present themselves. While you may think liberty has been taken with the stereotypes, I can assure you that mankind is a little more stereotypical at times than you might think. None more so than when people travel… A group of 20 people on a tour will naturally bring with them 20 different personalities. Among your travelling companions you will mostly likely find some or all of the following characters; Sensible Older Person: late forties, well read, well-travelled and generally the voice of reason. Wears his polished walking boots all day, every day. Older Independent Couple: in their fifties or sixties, retired, well off but down to earth, keen to see and explore every last thing and will probably know more about what there is to see than the Tour Leader. Natural Leader: in his late thirties, cool, calm, funny and one to turn to in a crisis if the crew are not present. Can also morph very quickly into a royal pain in the arse if he allows himself. Mother Figure: taking a sabbatical, has kids at home who are more worried about her than she is about them. Loving the new found freedom she has and will probably be the unexpected life and soul of the party. Single Hot Chick: in her late twenties, city girl, has money, up for adventure and partying. Bloody gorgeous and every man on the tour and off, will fancy the pants off her. The Baby: late teens or early twenties and the youngest on the trip. Normally a young lad who has been sent away to ‘toughen up’ and gain some life experience. First trip away and everything is so very, very new… Single Bloke and His Mate: two guys who are mates from way back. Late twenties, early thirties. Up for a laugh, constantly stitching each other up but good company to be with. Airhead: stereotypically scatty female in her twenties. Forgetful, funny and frequently opens her mouth without thinking. Man-Hater: in her thirties, running away from relationship problems. Hates men. No really, she hates men. She’ll tell you all about it… The Jester: single lad in his twenties. Doesn’t take anything, especially himself, seriously. Likes a few drinks but doesn’t know when enough is enough. Potential disaster zone. The Alcoholic: in his forties, loves the cheap booze as much as the sights to see. Quiet and morose during daylight hours, comes alive after a skinful. Nymphomaniac: late twenties and just out of a long term relationship. A party girl, up for anything. Literally. Numnuts: mid-twenties, the unfortunate one who will lose his passport, get mugged, chop his finger off and break his camera but will still find everything ‘absolutely amazing!’ The Whinger: early forties, has booked herself onto the wrong tour but won’t admit it. It’s always ‘too hot’, ‘too cold’, ‘too windy’ etc. Great to be with as long as she doesn’t open her mouth. The Oracle: been there, done it, knows it all. Male obviously, who loves the sound of his own voice, oblivious to the inevitable mickey taking he gets. Not a bad chap really, opinions aside. The Stingy One: rolling in money yet tight as a duck’s arse. Will quibble over 10 cents when paying the bill, reluctant to tip anyone, automatically knows at any given point how much he has spent on the trip. Will probably buy a Ferrari when he gets home though. The Veggie: there’s always one, normally a girl. Mid-twenties, generally a cool chick, funny but eats grass. And nuts. Silent Grafter: in her forties, always up early to put the kettles on, always mucks in, always on hand to help, never moans. A top lady all round. As scary as it sounds, this makes up an almost perfect group. Which one are you…? Have we missed any characters you have had on your tour?
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Tour starts here

Travelling on an organised tour isn’t always as simple as looking at some cool photos, booking something and just rocking up at the start point.

As I mentioned in the previous post, ‘The Evolution of Group Travel’ there are numerous ways to visit the same destination. The style and type of travel you choose will depend on the level of comfort you prefer, your budget and personal interests.

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Camping Tour in Northern Brazil

Hard core backpackers will shudder at the very thought of group travel, because organised tours aren’t that cool are they…?!

Actually nothing could be further from the truth…

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Overlanding friends on tour in Peru

During my years overlanding I have driven passed countless backpackers struggling to make their way through places such as Patagonia, across Central Asia and through the Amazon.

Chuckle inwardly? Not at all…

Overlanding in your own, or someone else’s, vehicle with a knowledgeable guide makes life so much easier. We’re not talking shooting past the landscape on a night bus with limited opportunity to see and learn about the environment you are passing.

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Andy with own transport in Mongolia

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Overland truck wilderness camping

We are talking the freedom to camp out in the wilderness, wherever we want, whenever we want, shopping for supplies in remote and random villages and having impromptu interaction with the locals in places locals rarely meet Westerners.

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Shopping in Kazakhstan markets

No matter what kind of tour you are interested in; a four day camping tour in the Aussie outback, a two week budget hotel tour around South East Asia, or a six month overland expedition around South America; you will need to do some homework so you know what you are signing up for.

All too often people book themselves onto a tour without really knowing exactly what they are getting themselves into. It is highly unlikely you would spend several hundred or  thousands of pounds buying a second hand car without taking it for a test run first, so why do some people spend the same kind of money on a tour without first checking it out thoroughly?

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Overland group in Kyrgyzstan

If only we knew…

So to find out if an organised tour, especially a camping or overland tour really is your thing or not, consider the questions below;

Do you want adventure?

Do you like the great outdoors?

Do you like a challenge?

Can you cope when things don’t always go to plan?

Can you take instructions from someone younger than you?

Can you mix with people with differing opinions to yours?

Do you enjoy travelling with like-minded people?

Are you confident exploring somewhere independently?

Do you enjoy participating in group activities?

Do you want to interact with local people?                   

Can you deal with a cold shower?

Can you cope with being voted out in a group decision?

Are you prepared to pull your weight and do your share?

Morning person or not can you handle less than 7 hours sleep?

Can you survive without daily access to the internet?

Can you raise a smile when it really has all gone tits up?

yes, backpack and oasis truck

If the answer to most of these questions is yes then you are definitely cut out for group travel, so pack your bags and get going!

If not, it might be worth considering something a little less exciting, like an all-inclusive resort.

But how boring would that be…?!

 

(Abridged from the forthcoming book 'It's NOT a Holiday; The A-Z Guide to Group Travel' by Andy N Robinson & Kirsty McGregor)

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Although in recent years I’ve largely travelled alone, my first steps into the big wide world of foreign adventures (with my parent’s safely on the other side of the world) were within a group environment. Traveling as a group can be fun, there is always someone to talk to, and there can be a lot of variety, meaning that usually there is never a dull moment. Travelling as a group can also be a little stressful, with added logistics, politics and the formation of cliques, especially among larger groups. Here are some ideas to help keep the chaos to a minimum:

Too Many Cooks Spoil the Broth

It is a fact that having a lot of people in one place, with limited space and facilities can be very stressful. It’s nice to be inclusive when planning a trip, but there is a point when it is wise to limit numbers – accommodation and transportation are usually the deciding factors. Think about what you are trying to accomplish – 2 weeks doing practical volunteer work lends itself to different numbers than inter-railing around Europe (e.g. 4 people building a school in Kenya? 20 people cramming onto a Deutsche Bahn ICE and expecting to sit in the same carriage, let alone near each other? Think again!). Have a reasonable idea of how many people on the trip is practical, and comfortable, and stick with that number.

Hong Kong & China 2008 - My team had a really good sense of humour and kept positive even when our accommodation in Guangzhou fell through and we had no idea where we would be staying.

 

Two’s Company. Three’s a Crowd

Trust me. In certain situations this works (e.g. you are all family, have hung out as the Three Musketeers for years, you’ve somehow managed to make a ménage-a-trois work, etc.) but generally it’s something to avoid. Typically there are either two situations: someone gets left out, or the “third wheel” begins to piss one or both other people off. While prime numbers are good for making majority decisions, it probably sucks to be the one ending up on their own (refer to Walter, Gary & Mary’s trip to LA in “The Muppets” for a case study).

 

Sharing is Caring

I recently stayed in a hostel in Rio de Janeiro and was driven crazy by Dutch travellers (particularly f the female variety) each taking 30 minutes in the bathroom – twice a day! If it’s important respecting fellow traveller’s need for facilities and space when you don’t know them, it is even more important to respect those you are actually travelling with. Limited number of electrical outlets? Even more limited number of socket converters? That means the person spending hours on their laptop (You fly half way around the world to use a laptop? ) can kick that habit and let other people charge their phones and cameras, and use electricity for more important things than checking non-essential emails and playing solitaire for hours on end.

If there are introverts in your group, allow them time and space to unwind alone. If someone has a case of Dehli Belly, maybe consider that you taking hours in the bathroom might actually be making their plight worse. If someone is jetlagged, give them time to sleep it off. Offer to help out with chores like cleaning when you leave and washing up rather than letting the same person do it all the time. And never, ever, EVER walk across someone’s futon with your dirty feet (Because I DESPISE sleeping in a gritty bed!).

 

Teambuilding

Before going to China we spent time getting to know 

each other through various activities such as playing 

sports on a surprisingly sunny Scottish beach

Before you go try to get to know everyone a bit better, especially the people you don’t know so well, whether be going for a drink together, having a pizza and movie night, fundraise as a team (if you are doing some kind of voluntary work) etc. It breaks the ice for sure, and might give you an idea of other people’s personalities, needs and quirks before you go.

 

Culture Shock

By this I don’t mean culture shock from being in a different country, but culture shock from being among people from different backgrounds can arise too. In Swaziland I was the second youngest person on the team (the youngest was there with their parents, and the oldest was a 79 year old woman there with her daughter!) while in China I was the second oldest person there not leading the team (and most others were still in high school). Different generations (particularly older generations) can have very different outlooks, which can be frustrating, especially if they don’t give you an easy time for being young (or credit for having more experience than them).

Then there can be problems caused by different social, educational and religious backgrounds – the list goes on. Basically anything in the country that can give you culture shock, you can probably also find in your travel group (if it is a very mixed group, or you are the odd one out). The best thing is to realise you have as much to learn from your fellow travellers as you can learn from the foreign culture. Be open, be flexible, talk and share what you are thinking and feeling.

 

Cameras

Imagine the amount of time it takes for one person to take a good group photograph. Now multiply that by a factor of the number of cameras in the group. Add a few extra minutes in for good measure. Now multiply that by the amount of things you’ll want to photograph while away. The answer? A lot of wasted time.

For that reason, limit the number of people taking photos at any time. To keep happysnapping to a minimum, assign a few people to be responsible for photos each day. Take 20% of the total number of cameras with you. If someone has a good camera and is really into photography, let them take most of the photos (but also give them the opportunity to be in some of them as well). Also as a guide, the person photographing EVERYTHING (usually repeatedly) is probably not the best photographer – a good photographer has an eye for a good shot, and so will only take photographs when they have a good shot. This means you get a smaller number of consistently very good photos that you can use, rather than endless bad photographs not even worthy of Facebook.

 

Remember the Outsiders

Be aware of people not interacting much with the rest of the group or seem a little withdrawn. Check they are ok, and give them plenty of (varied) opportunities to join in. Do things that can involve the whole group. Include them in conversations and invite them to give their opinion. Even ask them what they would like to do. They might just want some alone time, but they might also want to be involved but are struggling to interact with the rest of the group, perhaps due to strong personalities, unfamiliarity with people, in-jokes or activities, or simply being shy.

 

Cliques

Don’t invite a known clique to be part of your group – it should be all or nothing, simple as that. Likewise inviting a loved-up, young couple to be part of a group of singles can also be a bad idea (as if claiming the double bed, spending all their time together and not interacting with everyone else was bad enough, don’t even think about the consequences of a lover’s quarrel, let alone a break-up!). Let couples go on couples’ holidays and strong cliques go on holidays by themselves. If a clique forms while away, don’t panic too much (unless you are all out there for months) – people do have their preferences of whom they get on well with. As long as you get them mixing with other people and it doesn’t become a problem, you should be fine, at least until the end of the trip.

 

Chill Out

Be gracious, overlook imperfections, laugh things off, don’t make a big deal about insignificant things… etc. Take a deep breath, count to ten and relax. As we say in the UK “Keep Calm & Carry On”.

 

Conflict Resolution

Sometimes taking a moment doesn’t work and tempers can still flare up. Deal with conflict as soon as possible, long before it flares up. Talk. Try to see it from the other person’s side. Take some time out if need be. And ALWAYS be the first to say sorry. Forgive and forget – it’s not worth your trip being ruined.

 

Choose Wisely

Malta 2010 - A bike trip with some guys I knew 
well from a previous trip - no problems!

Ultimately choose wisely who you take with you. The person with the fiery temper or the serial drunkard causing all sorts of problems? Probably not a good idea. The really disorganised one or the girl who always brings too many clothes? Think again too. Or at least be aware of their behaviour before you go, and don’t be surprised if they let it all hang out when free from the confines of home. And remember, even if you don’t pick wisely, it isn’t forever and do your best to enjoy it while it lasts.

 

Fortunately for me, I've not had a particularly difficult time traveling in a group. Perhaps I've been lucky, but getting to know each other and having a good sense of humour have definitely helped gel the group together. Certainly I've had a much easier time than my siblings when traveling (my brother in particular has some horror stories). 

 

There's no point worrying about having a bad time. Most likely you will have a good time with a group of people, and never a dull moment for sure. But do bear in mind some of the pitfalls that can occur. By thinking ahead and identifying potential problems before they occur, you can avoid any mishaps and make sure your trip is an enjoyable one.

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